This year has been a rollercoaster in terms of my emotional well being, and boy am I glad that I was single for all of that. Don't get me wrong I am just like any other girl whose already planned her wedding and the future (all the way down to my twins and our future pet dogs name i.e Lisa-Ann and Rose and Rufus for the dog) and I am all into the concept of finding my soul mate and whatever. But sometime I made the personal decision to leave the concept of dating and too focus on myself and all the things that I needed to accomplish and fix in my life. Being single gave me the opportunity to sit back and watch all my friends go through young love and the heartbreaks that came with them. The thing I concluded though from my own small group is the fact that many of my friends, as lovely as they are have a fear of being on their own and tend to throw themselves into being in a relationship and I am not sure if its whether they felt they could only define themselves by the title of so and so's girlfriend or because they felt that being single meant no one wanted them or maybe the pure and honest answer is that they were so full of young love and butterflies that they felt that they needed to share it with everyone. Who knows. But what this year did for me was give me the opportunity to meet so many new guys of all walks of life , I wont lie the flirty banter is fun , but that's just it , banter because at the end of the day no matter how hard the flirting they all understand that I am not the young naïve girl who will fall in love with the dreams they attempt to sell me, but instead I am a young women who knows what's going on around her and that it takes more than a few good night texts and wink faces to catch me hook line and sinker. Who knows maybe I'll find my prince charming but for now I am a movement by myself and I plan to use my time not chasing boys but instead chasing drinks and dreams.
“Single is no longer a lack of options – but a choice. A choice to refuse to let your life be defined by your relationship status but to live every day Happily and let your Ever After work itself out.”
― Mandy Hale, The Single Women: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass
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